In preparing for Valentine’s Day, or what I like to call "Single Awareness Day", I was playing with my cell phone. I asked Siri, the interactive personal assistant on my iPhone4s, "Where to find the perfect man?"
She responded with what I think was a slight hint of attitude – “I don’t see the perfect man on your calendar.”
Great!
Now my phone is telling me that I can’t find the perfect man! So what do I do?
I dip my toes into the pond of online dating to find the perfect frog to kiss and turn into a prince.
Whoopee!
We all wish that online dating was as easy as the commercials make it look and secretly wish that all the people look like our favorite celebrity but let’s join reality. Although it may not be like the commercials, online dating can be an interesting experience and will hopefully keep the parents at bay about “finding someone special” for a couple of months.
Here are several types of online dating “ponds” that you might want to check into as you look for your frog.
1. Limited matches based on questions. One website in particular will ask you thousands of questions in order to match you with the perfect mate based on your answers. If you make it to the end of the list of questions and still want to try online dating then continue on soldier! You are presented with profiles that are compatible with your answers. You don't see any other profiles expect for the profiles that the website wants you to see.
2. Ten questions to your match. Other website focus on questions such as your wants and must haves in the future soul mate. The site will give you matches based on your date criteria but you can view anyone profile from anywhere in the country. I find this a little creepy that people from across the country can see my profile and “poke” me. What are we in kindergarden again, where the boy hits the girl to let her know he likes her.
3. Window Shopping Sites. Open profile sites allow you to view profile like window shopping for a date. I know several people who have met their significant other on this site. Just be aware of these sites, they usually have more men than women ratio. Most men on these sites are going after a booty call than instead of a long term a relationship.
I’ll admit it; I once met a long term boyfriend through online dating service. Unfortunately, the relationship came to a screeching end when I discovered he wasn't being very truthful. It probably worked out for the best though; he was too much like my ex-husband.
Keep in mind these tips when looking for your fog in the ponds on online dating.
1. Use a different email address. Have one email account that does not list your full name in the email address or in the display. I use a childhood nickname that is common as the display name since I have such an unusual first name.
2. Check to make sure your phone number is private. It’s unbelievable how much information you can find on a reverse look up on a cell number. You can check with your phone company on disabling the caller id for your phone number. Dating sites have now start adding calling features where you can use their site as the middle man to protect your phone number.
3. Backgrounds checks are your friend. Getting serious about someone? Spend the $20-30 on a background check. This will quickly tell you if you have a toad and not a frog. My thought is that it’s worth the money for my own security to know if I’m dating someone who is a serial killer. This is what tipped me off that something wasn’t quite right with the long-term boyfriend after I discovered he had an apartment in Miami for three years but didn’t really live there.
4. Schedule a Meet’n Greet. A meet’n greet is an excellent way to meet someone for a cup of coffee and skip out easily if it doesn’t work out. After spending four hours on a date with a guy who didn’t look anything like his photo and admitted he still lived with his mother, I learned this tip the hard way. Sometimes I like to take my dog on meet’n greets, because let’s be honest; if my dog doesn’t like you I probably won’t like you either.
5. Lock Down Social Networking Sites. You don't want a crazy cyber stalker you met on an online dating site knowing where you work, who your friends are, and other personal information about you.
Just remember if you don’t find your soul mate in one pond there are a lot of other ponds.